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Feed curiosity early, question happily ever after

17/9/2024

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What if Humpty did not have a great fall? Because happy Dumpty was saved in the nick of time by the pail of water Jack and Jill were carrying?

We are playing with rhymes for a reason. The thinking has always been repetition of good old nursery rhymes helps develop focus and vocabulary. Does that rationale extend to all learning by rote?

A report by The British Psychological Society cites research to state that most little children are “insatiably curious”, constantly questioning and exploring (young parents would concur, for sure). If the children were to remain in this state they can outlearn adults, but. It is a very significant but because “by about the age of six, their unbridled curiosity starts to wane” which hampers their ability to keep questioning and solving.
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Now, a new work published in the Journal of Experimental Psychology: General has studied children aged three to six years and “found that simply varying the messages that were embedded in a storybook could make a difference”. 

Fishing for treasure

There were 138 participants in the study in the US and, “to broaden the cultural background of the sample”, another 88 in Turkey.

The children listened to two versions of the same story of Sam following rules and instructions to search a group of islands for treasure. In the first version of the story Sam strictly went by the rules. At the end of it, when a participating child was asked a question, “the potential responses were always limited”.

The second version, the “strategic curiosity” version, lefts things rather uncertain. The children could pick which island to visit and also had to keep an eye on the time. Unlike the “obvious” questions that followed the first version, there were open-ended questions at the end of the second version.

Then came the application part. After the story, the children were introduced to a new game, which featured a virtual aquarium consisting of five fish tanks. Each tank had different hidden creatures, and the children had 15 minutes to find them.

For the group that had heard the “traditional” version of Sam’s story, this meant "following the rules and checking for all your clues". For the other group, it was about "staying curious and paying careful attention to everything around you".

While the two groups found about the same number of sea creatures, there were differences in performance. Those who were tuned to the “traditional” approach “often ran out of time to explore all of the tanks”. The “curious” group “prioritized visiting multiple tanks over deeply exploring individual ones and were more likely to get through them all”. The second group “spent a longer time searching tanks that appeared to contain relatively more creatures, even if it took some time to find those creatures”. This was a clear demonstration of greater “strategic persistence”, the researchers concluded. 

Revisit rote?

That “strategic persistence” is valuable in the corporate world. So, in the world of grown-up learning and development, should Sam be taught the rules by rote, or be encouraged to question and rethink? Would that sacrifice discipline and progress? Or yield rich rewards?

What do you think, my accomplished friends in the learning domain?

If I am in school, there is no room for questioning either Humpty or Jack. After all, my success depends on getting the answers expectedly right, to up-grade myself. That's what my young seven-year-old student had taught me all those years ago when I attempted to correct her homework. (“This is what my teacher wrote on the board…. Now, who gives me marks? Who gives me punishment if I do not obey?”)
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By the way, I do wonder what you are up above so high. How come the rain does not put off your twinkle? Why don’t you fall if you are diamonds? Hey, are you really stars or high-flying drones?
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Save your life or save all the regret?

17/9/2024

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𝐘𝐨𝐮 𝐜𝐚𝐧 𝐚𝐬𝐬𝐢𝐠𝐧 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐜𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐨𝐟 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐡𝐞𝐥𝐩𝐥𝐞𝐬𝐬𝐥𝐲 𝐮𝐧𝐰𝐞𝐥𝐥 𝐩𝐚𝐫𝐭𝐧𝐞𝐫 𝐭𝐨 𝐚 𝐟𝐚𝐜𝐢𝐥𝐢𝐭𝐲 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐬𝐚𝐯𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐫𝐞𝐬𝐭 𝐨𝐟 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐥𝐢𝐟𝐞. 𝐎𝐫 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐜𝐚𝐧 𝐚𝐬𝐬𝐢𝐠𝐧 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐛𝐞𝐬𝐭 𝐨𝐟 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐥𝐢𝐟𝐞 𝐭𝐨 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐥𝐢𝐯𝐞 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡𝐨𝐮𝐭 𝐫𝐞𝐠𝐫𝐞𝐭. 𝐖𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐰𝐨𝐮𝐥𝐝 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐝𝐨?

“In the months after my partner, Alex, was diagnosed with dementia in 2019, more than one person advised me to 'save' myself. What they meant was that I should move Alex into an assisted-living facility and get on with my life.

“Alex’s diagnosis followed months of realizing more and more urgently that something was seriously wrong. It was as if we had entered a tunnel in which the only exits were into doctor’s offices for tests and scans and increasingly concerned conversations.

“This left me completely torn. Of course, I didn’t want him to get worse. But until he did, help was limited. I learned the hard way that there isn’t an exact correlation between a person being able to perform daily activities and being able to live independently, or even be left alone for an extended period of time.

“Early in the pandemic, I made my own list, not of things Alex could or couldn’t do, but things from our former life that we could still enjoy. The list was modest — only four items: drinking tea in the morning, going on hikes, watching something on TV in the evening and taking the occasional day trip. This is the list that guided me through the long, lonely days of lockdown.

“What I think about now, more than two years after Alex’s death, is that there is more than one way to save yourself.

“Even as Alex’s world shrank, we could still have tea together every morning and watch TV at night. He could still take comfort from our beloved cats. He could stand in the woods behind the house and look at the light on the trees. He could live with someone who loved him, even in his diminished state.

"In opting not to save myself from the burden of Alex’s care, I ended up saving myself from the burden of regret. And that is going to last me a lifetime.”

Thank you, Sue Dickman, for this, straight from your heart! And thank you The Washington Post for publishing this.

​https://www.washingtonpost.com/wellness/2024/09/07/dementia-partner-assisted-living-caretaker/
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